martial arts lesson it's okay for boys to cry

Watch this inspiring martial arts mentor teach young boys it’s OK to cry

“It’s OK to cry. We cry as men.”

By Amy Lewis, 08 August 2016
Watch this inspiring martial arts mentor teach young boys it’s OK to cry

In an incredibly touching moment – be prepared to shed a tear yourself – which has been captured on video and already shared over 1.3 million times, a martial arts instructor delivers an invaluable lesson to his young students about dealing with emotion as boy.

I don't mind you crying, I cry a lot too - we all face that from time to time.

The video, which was taken at a martial arts school in Detroit, America, captures the moment a little boy named Bruce struggles to break a block during his initiation to the class. After seeing Bruce get upset, instructor Shärath Jason Wilson steps in.

Rather than deliver a few lines on keeping a ‘stiff upper lip’, the mentor comforts Bruce, telling that him that it’s OK to cry, before asking him to explain what’s made him feel upset.

Cue an inspiring lesson for the whole class on embracing tears, dealing with feelings of emotional stress and moving past it to achieve your goals.

“I don't mind you crying, I cry a lot too… we all face that from time to time. As soon as we hit resistance, we want to stop, right?” he tells Bruce.

“It’s good to cry so you can work through that emotion, so when it arises again, you can push it to the side, and do what you gotta do.”

After the gentle pep talk, Wilson then asks Bruce to try to break the block again, using the left hand that he initially struggled with. Clearly feeling buoyed, supported and more focused Bruce manages to easily break it on his first attempt.

Sharing the video on YouTube, the martial arts school wrote: “Congrats to Bruce, our latest recruit to pass his Initiation Test… We decided to share this part of his Initiation Test to encourage all of you to not only allow your sons to cry when facing emotional stress, but more importantly, patiently walk them through it.

“During these perverse times, it's truly vital that we, the men and fathers of this generation, do not allow our boys to grow up with a false sense of masculinity like many of us did. As a result, we have a mass amount of emotionally unstable men walking in unresolved anger, confusion and depression, instead of power, love and discipline.

“We place strong emphasis on allowing our recruits to openly express their emotions, so that we can teach them how to use those emotions to their benefit.”

Watch the full video here, with a little involvement from Bruce’s father too, who attended the class with his son.